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Relationship Problems

The break up of a close relationship can be emotionally scarring for years, let alone the havoc it can wreak on children and the other family members. Before you give up and risk those challenging consequences, know that there are new ways to resolve what appears to be the most hopeless relationship. It is usually very hard for relationship partners to imagine resolutions to their problems because they themselves can see no possible solution.

A partial list of relationship issues includes:

• Excessive arguing
• Physical abuse
• Lack of intimacy
• Unsatisfactory sexual relations
• Parenting conflicts
• Extramarital affairs
• Problems with in-laws and relatives

The New Answer

It is not yet well known by the public that extraordinary breakthroughs for some of the most stubborn relationship issues have been discovered in only the last few years. There is a new way to do marital and relationship therapy that actually works with the most emotionally draining, conflict riddled and frustrating relationship problems. New scientific evidence suggests that relationship wounds can often be healed and you can learn to operate in harmony.

Not only can these issues be resolved but also they can be settled in fewer sessions and in less time. This results in less expensive overall treatment. For example, almost all marital therapies have had about a 50% success rate but in the last few years newer approaches have now shown a 73% success rate in just ten sessions. This is a dramatic improvement!

Your effort makes a difference

We now have the methods that are most likely to work, but relationship counseling is not an approach that is conducted totally by the therapist’s participation. It requires the commitment, prioritization and willingness to try new things, and a commitment to follow through on “homework assignments”. There are, of course, variations in the length of time it may take to resolve relationship issues because there are huge differences in severity, complexity, and the degree of entrenched habits that require, for example, ten sessions for one couple and fifteen for another.

How this method is different

Very few marriage and family therapists are aware of these new methods. Therefore, all relationship counselors do not use the newest methods. These new methods are focused on “attachment theory” and emphasize how we can regulate our emotions more effectively. However, it is not limited to emotions. Communication, conflict, contrasts in value systems; affairs, etc. can all be efficiently handled through these new approaches. Sometimes relationship therapy may evolve into individual counseling for one individual more than the other partner.

How does this method work?

This method works best when both partners participate in therapy but it can also work when only one person participates. Under repeated stress or traumatic situations our most primitive coping styles emerge. These coping styles reveal unique attachment patterns that define how we regulate our emotions. By teaching each partner how best to respond to the other’s attachment pattern, amazing changes can be made in relationship patterns. For many people it will be the first time that odd or dangerous moods and behavior will actually make sense. This method is combined with the use of visual brain stimulation to facilitate rapid changes in emotions that have been stuck for years.

Frequently Asked Questions

If your partner has already decided to leave the relationship, can this new approach help?
If the decision is already a firm one the chances for change are very limited. However, if one is still open to work on it, the chances are improved.

What if my partner is the one who has the problem and he/she is in denial, can this help?
Most couples enter counseling believing that the relationship problems are the fault of the other person. We usually find that both partners contribute to the issues. People often deny their issues as a defense against one partner’s blaming, but there are ways to encourage people to own up to their issues that often work.

I don’t believe any therapist can tell me how to correct my relationship. Shouldn’t every couple take care of their own problems themselves?
I agree that people should first attempt to resolve their own issues themselves. However, if after attempting to correct them, the problem is not resolved to the satisfaction of both partners; professional help may be your best choice.

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